Confidence Wishing Well
I'm back from a lonnnnng hiatus from blogging! I did not intentionally part from blogging...I just got busy with my fitness business, my daughter, and all the other things life throws you, and stopped setting the time aside...until now! Truth is: You're never too busy to make time for something that matters. My blog matters, and so do those that consistently read my blog. The best way for me to relieve stress (besides a glass or two of wine and a bubble bath), is writing and reflecting. I love writing...which is probably why my blog has been on my mind.
My blog today is about reflecting, meditating, de-stressing, and surrounding yourself with love, support, and POSITIVITY! I've always sort of had the mentality: "If I don't do it myself, it'll never get done". I still struggle with letting go of control and asking for help when I need it. Thank God for reflecting!!! I have reached a point where I realize the importance of delegating tasks, and accepting help and support...but most importantly, surrounding myself with positive, like-minded people.
Many people have different philosophies for "keys to success" and so on and so forth. As I grow, learn, and develop/enhance my leadership skills, I am forced to realize that a major key to success and optimal wellness is simply to surround yourself with positivity! Your state of mind and your frame of mind will effect how you look at the world, and how you value yourself. Your inner circle and who you associate with on a regular basis will determine your goals, aspirations, and path. If you are not engaging in conversations with individuals on your wavelength, what value do they bring to you? I'm not saying start making cuts and deleting friends...but I am saying, if you are not happy with where you are, you may want to look a little deeper into who you are spending your time with, and redirect it towards more like-minded individuals with something to offer you. Some people can suck the life right out of you. There are POSITIVE people and things out there, you just have to get out there and find them! This blog is not just about positive people. You can create positivity in your own home and/or work space just by adding little quotes or reminders to get you through your day. I keep them everywhere, including the lock screen on my cell phone. I also have little mantras I say throughout the day so nothing disturbs my peace. You are in control of your peace. Find what works for you to stay in a peaceful, positive state of mind...and never feel guilty to take time for yourself. I am learning, growing, and working on these things every day! So far, so good! What do you do to stay positive? What do you do to de-stress? I'm curious!!
Today’s topic is “Mommy Guilt”!!! I decided to write about this and to hear feedback, because I am a mommy and I have, and still suffer from occasional “Mommy Guilt”. This is something that comes along with being a mother, so why not talk about it!!! First off, let’s define what this Mommy Guilt is that I am referring too. After reading various articles on this topic, I’ve determined that there are multiple levels of Mommy Guilt (far too many for me to touch on in one blog post). So I will talk only about the one I am most familiar with from my own personal experience. This type of mommy Guilt is basically the guilty feeling moms sometimes have when they (God forbid) do something for themself. For instance, going to dinner with friends, sending their kids to daycare while they work etc. Whatever your situation, it’s seriously going to be ok! I know it’s easier said than done, but as mothers, we would drive ourselves to the point of exhaustion/depression if we didn’t have a break!!! In order to raise a happy, healthy baby/child, you must first take care of yourself!!! I will speak to my own situation briefly. I’m a 27 year old single mother and business owner. I love to network and meet new people, and since I am single and 27, I’m not opposed to a good happy hour or night out. I love my daughter more than anything, but at some point I had to realize, that treating myself to something doesn’t mean I love of care for her any less. Balance is key to everything in life! You have got to find a balance, and take care of your own needs. It’s ok to feel the need to get away for a couple of hours…sure, the guilt will set in, but it’s healthy to have some “you time”!!! I am open to any comments or questions anyone may have!!! This topic is not always talked about, and many people probably have no idea the extent of this or the feeling period…but just wait until you have a baby (they should make a pill called “tylenol-mommy strength”… main ingredients: acetaminophen, patience, love, the answers to everything, super-hero powers, the ability to do 50 things at once, the ability to still remain civil and sane in public, the ability to make mental checklists of EVERYTHING kid, work, and family related…ok, you get my point)!!! Being a mommy is the best thing that has ever happened to me, and my daughter gives me reason and purpose. I thank God for the ability to find balance while juggling the various dimensions of my life. I also thank and appreciate my own Mother who is extremely supportive and helpful. I am anxious to read some of your own experiences, so comment away!!!
Lately, a theme around me seems to be overall relationships with people, friends, acquaintances etc. I, personally, cherish the relationships I have with everyone I meet. I feel that everyone has a reason for entering your life, whether it’s a one- time encounter, or a long lasting friendship. Now, while this is a characteristic of mine that that reflects my personality, it’s not always ideal. However, I have the ability to identify that. Not all relationships and situations are good ones…some are toxic. The best thing you can do for yourself when in a “toxic” situation with someone is to identify it, and disconnect yourself from that relationship. The best way to identify that a problem even exists, is to ask yourself “Am I happy in this situation?”. If the answer is “NO”, then you need to reevaluate that specific relationship and redirect your path to a situation that is positive, and one that makes you happy. As far as friends go…great/loyal friends are far and few between, so cherish the loyal friends that you do have, because they cannot be replaced. Never take people for granted…we often get too busy and lose focus on the important things and the important people in our lives, and sometimes we need a little reality check. Over the course of your life, think of when you’ve been down and out, who were the people you counted on, and who were the people that were there in the blink of an eye with no questions asked??...cherish those people and never lose track of the importance they have in your life. Sadly, we live in a world where we sometimes dwell on things…”I don’t have this”, “I don’t have that”, “poor me”…life is too short to be so negative!!! Try to think of all the positive things and people that God has placed in your life. Every day strive to better yourself and strengthen the relationship that you highly value because you never know what tomorrow holds. If you are in a situation where you are simply not happy, it’s time to move on…life is an awesome thing to experience when you are happy and confident!!!
So, I decided I would write my 2nd blog today while I was grocery shopping. I was at my local grocery store stocking up on fresh produce to juice, and thought "juicing is the perfect 2nd blog topic"!!! I first became interested in juicing in 2004. I remember this perfectly clear because I wasted tons of money in one trip to the grocery store with my roomie, Daphne. At that time, juicing sounded like a great idea, so I bought a juicer and tons of fresh produce...I think I maybe juiced 2 or 3 times and then packed up the juicer, and I haven't seen that specific one since. I had no idea all that went into juicing, and needless to say, I could not commit myself to the effort and self-discipline it takes to juice. Years later I was reintroduced to juicing through a documentary called "Fat, Sick, and Nearly Dead"...I fell in love all over again. This time around, it wasn't just the idea I fell in love with, it was the FACTS! I was drawn to of all of the health benefits that can be gained from juicing. I recommend anyone who is interested in juicing to DO YOUR RESEARCH and never hesitate to ask questions!!! I have coached people through juicing detoxes, juicing weight loss diets, and for people like me, juicing here and there to get some good nutrients into my system. I try to juice at least one time/day (usually breakfast because I'm HORRIBLE about eating breakfast, and I feel more energized throughout the day if I start my morning off healthy). Also, besides its nutritional value/qualities, juicing certain fruits and vegetables can improve your hair, skin, and nails, LADIES!!! I notice when I juice regularly everything from my skin and hair all the way to my mood and energy levels are positively influenced!!! I could go on forever about my experience and journey with juicing, so I'll quickly move on to my Green Energy drink that I juiced today.
Hello Everyone and welcome to my website and my blog. I'm new to the blogging world, but I love the idea of it, and I'm extremely excited to share and discuss wellness related topics!!! With a new year, the most common thing people talk about is resolutions!! With that said, my New Year's resolution is to continue on my own wellness journey, and to continue to expand my personal growth. I plan on doing this by reading and writing more, making healthy decisions, and by strengthening my relationship with God. This seems simple enough...right?!?! Again, thanks for checking out my blog!!! I'll be blogging regularly so don't miss out!!! xoxo-Jo